First numbers exchanged: how a moment becomes an eternity

How do you describe a connection between two people that just seems to feel right; to fit like two pieces meant to be joined together? Is it coincidence? Is it fate? Many have tried to describe the process of love – from Plato’s Symposium to Lavender Newswire. According to some people two men or two women can’t share intimate love with each other. We know otherwise!

Gary & David 1st Photo

The next morning (for what happened the night before click here ) – after a night of little sleep and plenty of enjoyment – Gary and David woke up beside each other with smiles of satisfaction and then went for brunch with Anthony who slept on the now infamous sofa. The initial connection wasn’t necessarily anything that would lead one to believe that we would fall in love, but it did seem more than just another one-night-stand. There was a definite repeat possibility, and a definite attraction. But love? Not yet. That would come weeks later.

How many people have been fooled by this initial feeling of attraction, thinking something “magical” or fateful is occuring, “falling in love at first sight” – only to be disappointed when the fairy tale ends? Love takes time to develop, to build, to deepen, to endure. Lust, on the other hand, can manifest at light speed (=lust speed, not to be confused with ecstacy) and is certainly consistent with being a “Mr. Monday Night”. Besides, Gary could hear all the warning bells about a rebound relationship possibility, since David had recently ended a five-year relationship only three weeks before meeting Gary. If anything were to develop, Gary was going to take it one day at a time. David was too busy checking for other phone numbers to think about it.

Nevertheless, Gary still decided to hold on to David’s telephone number, at least ready for a repeat. They had each written on a scrap of paper advertising The Barn

11 Sep 1995

meant for exchanging telephone numbers between interested guys. On the back, Gary had written his number on the top of the paper and David wrote his underneath. Then they tore the paper into two pieces.

DG#Exchange 11 Sept 1995

It wasn’t until months later when they moved in together that they both realized they had kept the pieces of paper – the lust turning to the colour of love. Putting both of the separate pieces of torn paper together they fit together, a glimpse of the developing relationship.

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